Sunday, December 30, 2012

bila Miss Perfection bertemu Mr Perfectionist 
dunia menjadi kacau bilau..


How can you tell if you are a perfectionist? A perfectionist is someone who holds the underlying belief that perfection can be attained and it should be. Many people in our world today are perfectionists or have been perfectionists at some point in our lives. In fact, if you are reading this article, you are probably a perfectionist too, being drawn to the word “perfectionist” in the title and all!

Are You Perfectionist?
You can usually spot a perfectionist a mile away, simply because of the extremist behavior that is exhibited. Here are ten tell-tale signs on whether you’re a perfectionist or not:
  1. You are highly conscious and hyper-critical of mistakes. Hence, you have an extremely sharp eye toward details.
  2. You aim to be the best in everything you do, even if it is something that you are not interested in.
  3. You spend copious amount of time, right down to the last moment, to perfect something. You would rather sacrifice your well-being (such as sleep, eating time, etc) than let something be less than it can be.
  4. You set absolute ideals. There is only black and white, no grey.
  5. You are the harshest critic of yourself. You would beat yourself up over the smallest thing that went wrong, to the extent of being neurotic.
  6. You mull over outcomes if they did not turn out as envisioned. You wonder why it wasn’t a different outcome, and whether you could have done anything to prevent that.
  7. You are defensive toward criticism and have a fear of failure because they suggest imperfection.
  8. You only have the end goal in mind. If you don’t achieve the goal, it really does not matter what happens in the process.
  9. You have an all-or-nothing approach. If the situation does not allow him/her to achieve the standard he/she laid out, he/she will abandon the task because it does not make sense to spend time on something that he/she is not going to conquer.
  10. You are very conscious of any situation which might give others the perception you are not perfect.
If you are a perfectionist, you will find the above traits highly familiar to you.

What leads to perfectionism?
In general, there are three underlying motivations for perfectionism. Perfectionism may result due to either one or combination of any of the three reasons. If you are a perfectionist, you may be able to relate to one or more of the following.
1. Fierce desire for growth
They expect perfection of themselves. Their perfectionism is the result of an insatiable thirst and desire for growth and to be the best that one can be. To come anything short would be not to live up to one’s true potential, which defeats the purpose in living.
2. Social expectations
Their perfectionism comes about because it is socially expected of them. Family, teachers, coaches, managers and leaders with authoritarian, dictatorial styles induce perfectionism by drawing a high standard of benchmark we need to reach and reciprocating failure with forms of punishment. Failing is equated to being worthless. Schools and workplaces with a fierce culture of competition and strong emphasis on performance and achievement are common breeding grounds for perfectionism. Society and media perpetuate untainted, flawless, virtual, perfect end states which are subsequently brought to life in the form of imagery, verbal and sensory cues in advertising, marketing and idol worship. They create the aspiration toward unrealistic ideals and instill the belief that such ideals are in fact achievable.

3. Sense of insecurity
For some people, perfectionism may arise out of insecurity of one’s own worth. People who have faced discrimination of sorts or sidelined since young develop a sense of inadequacy or void in themselves. This abyss in turn manifests the desire or need to overtly prove themselves through their actions and accomplishments. They desire to make a statement about themselves, whether for themselves or other people around them.
To you, the reader – Are you a perfectionist? What drives you to be one?


Monday, December 17, 2012


kali nih aku  ingin dedikasikan sebuah 
entry khas buat sahabat baik ku di ump..
yg sentiasa ada di kala ku susah dan senang..
 ya khas untuk..
seorg shbt istimewa..

dikala kau membaca entry nih mungkin  aku dh xdk..
dh bawa diri jauh dari kau..
haha xlar..
aku hanya pergi jika kau pergi dari aku..

aku minta maaf..
maaf sgt2..
aku tawu kau sgt baik..
kau selalu menjadi pendengar yg baik..
kau selalu ada dikala aku perlukan kau..
kau sentiasa cuba memahami aku..
kau selalu buat aku tersenyum..
kau  sentiasa sabar melayan sikap aku yg kdg2 menjengkelkan..
eh bukan kdg2 tpi yg sgt menjengkelkan nih..
kau sentiasa menyimpan rahsia aku..
kau itu..
kau ini..
sifat kau xdpat aku ungkapkan dgn kata2..

tapi aku..
tapi aku sebaliknya..
aku tawu kau selalu terasa ngn sikap aku..
aku minx maaf..
aku tawu aku bukan seorang kawan mahupun sahabat yg baik buat kau..
aku selalu kecewakan kau..
aku tawu aku xlayak sekalipun berkawan dengan kau..
eh bukan xlayak tapi aku pasti aku xlayak pun kawan ngn kau..
kau tawu kan aku mcm mana..

jika kau rasa aku xboleh dibuat  kawan..
pergi lah jauh2 dari aku..
aku xkisah..
aku dah biasa ditinggalkan..
kau boleh cari kawan lain..
yg lebih dan boleh dipercayai..
dan yg pasti itu bukan aku..

k lah penat nangis..

teringin punya ciri2 diatas..

Sunday, December 16, 2012


as salam..
minggu terakhir semester bakal  tiba beberapa jam ja lagi..
kerja2 perlu dihantar mula lah bertimbun2 berjela2 datang..
terlampau banyak..
xmampun diungkapkan dgn kata2..
ada 3 projek perlu dihantar..
microprocessor stage 3,micro controller & pc interfacing serta report project2 nih.. 
xlupa juga,da 1 assignment principles of control sysytem yg belum strt lagi pun..
pas2 1 test electrical machine yg belum ku study..
pas2 quiz pcs n em..
pas2 report expriment em and pcs
arhh tekanan..
tyme nih jugak lah..
mood malas mencari2 diriku yg sedia malas..
shuh shuh main jauh2
jgn dekati aku
aku nk rajin2..
nk jadi cm pic bwh nih..
k bye..!

Saturday, December 15, 2012

JaGaKaN dIa

lagu nih khas ditujukan buat si dia yg berjaya memiliki hati saya pada 12.12.12..
terima kasih kerna sudi menjadi sebahgian dari saya..
luv u so much..



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